Instant setup). Enter your email register why don't we email list listen better? "It's exhausting!" “we are distracted! » "Because I have something to say!" this is all true, and they all come up against a bigger obstacle to listening: self-focus. Picture this: you're having dinner with friends and you're all seated around the table before your entrees come out. Everyone is engaged in conversation – laughing, joking and catching up. There is a lull in the conversation and someone breaks down. They reach into their pocket and pull out their iphone. What will (probably) happen next? A. They check the notification, apologize, and the conversation resumes b. They realize what they're doing and put the phone back in their pocket without checkingit c.
Everyone pulls out their phone in responsewe all know the answer is c. We all wait for permission to check our phones, check our emails, our social media pages, our stuff. Distractions, like smart phones, hamper our ability to listen. They make us self-focused in email list situations where we should be focusing on others. How to listen better? You may have heard of reflective listening – a strategy that involves repeating a version of what you just heard back to the speaker. Perhaps you have practiced active listening - a communication strategy that forces the listener to focus on memorizing what the speaker is saying and doing in order to respond. The problem with these strategies (in practice) is that it often seems like you're pretending to listen instead of actually listening.
"Yeah, I got it, okay, uh-huh, yeah, definitely, okay, yeah, yeah" - someone who listens "Actively" to listen better, don't worry about repeating ideas to the email list speaker or giving evidence that you are listening. Instead, stop focusing on yourself and focus on others. When you focus on others, you: listen to understand , don't wait your turn to speak stop assuming you know what someone's gonna saymake meaningful connections show empathy are present in the moment ask better questions think more about the questions you should